Spirituality and Same Sex Relationship

The one part of my life which I have never really looked at until recently was how I feel about same sex relationships. Many years ago, in 1977 I had a radio show in Australia. This was 5 years before I opened the metaphysical doorway. It was a 3 hour show every Friday morning and I was the most popular person each week on the radio. Mainly because people loved my English accent, and I realize now, that people were affected by my energy even then, as one woman had said to me, you are so comforting on the radio! I had to have a theme for my show, and I had heard a piece of music which I just loved, it was called Billitus, and I was not to know it was the music from a film about lesbians! I just loved the music. This piece of music played my show in and played it out. One day, I had a letter from a woman who told me she loved my show and would love to meet me. Her name was Elizabeth and she was married with two children. I arranged to meet her a few days after the letter arrived. (There was no email then as far as I recall) We met in town, had a delicious lunch and talked and talked. Elizabeth seemed so nice and invited me back to her house to see photo’s of her children and talk further. I went along quite innocently.

During my visit to her home, she made a cup of tea for me and sat down at my feet. There she began to tell me how much she loved me, how she loved my show and wanted to be with me. I did not know what to do, because I certainly did not feel the same way. I also felt embarrassed, deeply embarrassed. I was married with children myself, I was not happy in my marriage, but the thought of being with another woman was YUK!! I could not get out of the house quick enough. She had given me a book by Karlil Gibran over our lunch, called “The Prophet” apparently I had mentioned on air I loved Gibran’s writing, and did not have a book. I left the book behind in my effort to leave the house as quickly as I could. When I got home, I felt sick, I also felt “dirty” as if I had been invaded. Elizabeth tried to contact me at the radio station by phone, but I refused to take her calls. She sent the Karlil Gibran book by mail, with a nice card; I threw it in the bin. I cannot believe I did it now, but at the time I was so confused and embarrassed. It was as if the book was a part of what had taken place. I changed the music also in the show to something quite different. I shut the experience completely out of my mind and got on with my life, moving house and area a few years later.

After my experience with Elizabeth, many years passed without my having to face the issue again. Meantime the Aids issue became big, and then waned off. It was considered if you were gay as these relationships were known as, that you would get Aids. However, I was getting on with my life, experiencing a recession where I was a major player, and discovering metaphysics. I met quite a few gay people during this time, but kept on the outside of their energy, as I was so frightened what had happened before, would happen again. When I became a clairvoyant reader I had a few clients who were gay and the energy I channeled for them was so filled with love and understanding, but still myself, I had huge difficulty in understanding them. When Maitreya entered my life, one of the first things he began teaching me was love for all humanity no matter who. I had always had love in my heart for everyone, but this issue of gay people was a big block for me to get by.

Maitreya taught me that love in any form was the most beautiful thing people could have. He also taught me about sexual pleasure and how important it was for our spiritual/higher consciousness development, but also for OUR pleasure. Personally I had never had an orgasm; I had to admit I was very inexperienced in the sexual area. In fact to be honest I was downright embarrassed at the talk of sex, and at doing anything other than what basically my parents did. Maitreya led me to books which explained sex in a whole new way; He taught me through many different ways about sexual energy, once leading me through the tease of a book in a shop window on tantric sex, into a shop where I had to ask for the book. The shop was very busy and the owner said very loudly when I asked for the book in the window “Oh the book on tantric sex.” which made everyone look up and my cheeks to go bright red!! One day, I woke up in the morning and felt I had a Penis and testicles; it was as if etherically I did. I could feel the testicles heavy between my legs, and as the day progressed, my Penis rose at the very thought of sex or at the vision of any pretty woman who crossed my path. Thoughts of Elizabeth again surfaced. I learned what it feels like to be a man for the day, and I must be the only female who knows what the tingle feels like before a man has an orgasm. However, after one day, it was over, but not before I had learned that men are totally different to women and understanding the male energy a lot better. It was then Maitreya told me he did not like the word gay. He preferred to use the word “free.” Because he said these people who had same sex relationships were free, they had freed themselves from the binding of conditioning. It took a big commitment to be free and so he wrote a teaching about this. He counseled me on the subject of same sex relationships. I told him it was OK with me, but I did not feel it was for me. He told me that was OK but not to judge and more than ever not to be afraid of these people (which I had to admit I was.) I had been brought up by parents who called these people faggots and other such names.

I had to learn to uncondition myself which was not an easy task. However I found myself becoming more and more understanding. Maitreya brought free couples into my life to show me how their love was given and received. By now, free people were beginning to have families, and a lot of controversy was created because of this. However, I began to think after seeing quite a few couples, why should they not do this? I could see that many of them had so much love to give to children. The common thought was that the children of these couples would become free themselves, but after meeting a couple of families who had been brave and done this many years before and speaking to the children, they were as normal as other families, they just had two of the same sex people as parents. They said they had no feelings themselves for the same sex people. I was beginning to change.

As I began to relax more about same sex relationships, I found that I was becoming more and more understanding about other subjects as well. I found myself talking to free people up close, and actually not being frightened of doing so, something which in my early years would have freaked me out. I remember as a young girl, two particular people, one was a man called Quinten Crisp who when I was in England, came out and admitted he was free at a time when it was considered horrific. He was called all sorts of names and suffered terribly for doing so. Another was when Rock Hudson the film actor died and the press was desperately trying to prove he was free also. They never did at the time, but many years later, after of course many more people had come out, it was proved he was. I began to say, when I met a very handsome free person; “What a waste!” I was changing so much I could not believe it. In 1991 a friend of mine lost her husband to cancer. It devastated her. She had two young children and I realize now she could not face what had happened. I needed someone to help me on the road while I traveled, and she needed to get away. Leaving her children with some friends at the times I went away, we traveled together for me to do my readings and teaching. One evening, in the hotel room, she was crying in her bed over her deceased husband. I decided to get into bed with her and comfort her. As I lay there in bed with her, I found myself actually feeling good about this. She had her back to me, and all of a sudden I felt very loving towards her, I was also feeling sexual. She did not turn around, and eventually went to sleep. I went back to my own bed and lay there thinking about the experience. It did not frighten me, in fact it felt good. I asked myself what I would have done if something had happened. I came to the realization it would not have bothered me, I would have gone with the flow. I felt liberated!

Since that time, I have not had any desire for a female companion or partner. When I met and married Alan, I felt complete, as we are so alike. I knew there would be nobody else for me after Alan and Maitreya confirmed this. However, I was watching TV one night, and there was a new show on MSNBC called “The Rachel Maddow show” Rachel was an incredible woman, she was not only incredible, but openly free. I loved her in a non romantic way. Once again the feeling I had previously was back. However this time I openly welcomed it without fear or wanting to hide. It does not feel “bad” anymore to have that feeling, and I am certainly no longer afraid of it anymore. Do I still love Alan, you bet I do? I also know that I need a man in my life, but would I consider a woman if that were different? You bet you I would. I was thirty two when I met Elizabeth, and I am now sixty two. Thirty long years have passed, and during that time my belief system has totally changed. I cannot thank the world of spirit enough for enabling me to see this and to make the change I have done. Maitreya has said, love is love, it does not matter how it is used. I whole heartily agree.

How to Improve Sex Life For Women

There are unlimited ways for a woman to improve her sex life. Contrary to the belief of many men and women that age can get in the way of keeping your sex life active, there is always a way to tweak the system. In order to improve sex life for women, the first thing that a person must do is to examine their sexual drive or libido.

The female libido is a very sensitive factor that hugely affects the woman’s urge to have sexual intercourse. A lot of women have tried natural methods in order to increase the level of their libido and perform better in bed. It has been proven that certain herbs and dietary plans can aid in controlling the level of sexual appetite and improve sex life for women.

Some food sources are found to also contain very dynamic substances that alter the movement of sexual hormones. These food options allow men and women to fully satisfy their sexual urges, making their relationships last longer and become more stable. Most of these types of herbs can be related to some of the most popular spices used in main dishes. Although people primarily use these ingredients to add zing to food, unknown to many people, these spices can also invigorate the libido.

A lot of Middle Eastern and European countries are known to refer to spices as forms of aphrodisiacs. These spices revitalize different senses in the body and attack our psychological weaknesses to invite sexual drive. When a person’s body is found to increase in temperature, this also heightens up the urge of the person to have sexual intercourse. With hot temperature being related to a form of assertiveness, a lot of women are encouraged to consume this type of herbs to maintain a stronger libido.

If you also want to use a type of herb that is known for its medicinal capabilities, you may also try Ginseng, which has long been accepted as a form of treatment in enhancing the libido of women. The Ginseng is often resembled to both the female and male organs due to its effectiveness in arousing the sexual tension between the opposite sexes.

If you also want to stick to more basic food types, you may also refer to those that often remind you of the sensitive parts of both the male and the female body. Females love to refer to bananas as having a strong resemblance to a man’s penis, whereas men go for oysters that represent the female’s vagina. Knowing what food to eat help improve sex life for women and heats up their libido.

Knowing how to improve sex life for women will help discern what specific things you need to improve on as a partner in bed. As much as people want relationships to be purely based on the absolute concept of love, sexual intercourse still plays a huge part on long term commitments. If you know how to improve sex life for both you and your partner, you might just be able make your relationship work even better.

Herbal Treatments For Male Sexual Dysfunction

The two common sexual disorders that most men fear are Erectile Dysfunction (ED) and Premature Ejaculation (PE). Erectile Dysfunction (also known as Impotence) is the general inability of a man to attain and maintain an erection in order to perform sexually while Premature Ejaculation is the ejaculation that occurs earlier than desired which can either be before, on, or soon after penetration leaving the couple feeling unsatisfied.

When it comes to the issue of Erectile Dysfunction, a series of factors are involved in developing an erection. Sexual arousal causes nerves in the brain and spine to signal arteries in the penis to swell up with blood. The spongy tissues in the penis expand and it becomes erect. Any interference with this process, whether physical or psychological, can prevent an erection.

As men age, there are changes in erectile function. It may take longer to develop an erection and it may not be as rigid, and more direct stimulation may be required. Orgasm may become less intense and the volume of ejaculate reduced. The majority of cases of ED are caused by physical factors such as diabetes and nerve damage. It can also be caused by psychological issues, or the use of certain drugs. In most cases it is not caused by low sexual desire.

Meanwhile, for majority of men, holding the urge to ejaculate is difficult and sometimes impossible to control, thus ejaculation occurs relatively fast. If this occurs prior to the women achieving sexual satisfaction, then frustration can result. If this frustration continues, it is very like to damage a relationship.

Premature ejaculation is rarely a problem by itself, as it has several underlying possible causes and rarely is it caused by a physical or structural problem. Some of these causes may include by not limited to stress or other physical conditions, emotional or psychological factors and even poor health issues like high cholesterol.

The ejaculatory reflex running from the brain to the penis is very complex thus just focusing on the nerve endings itself as is the case with most PE treatments does not really solve the problem in a holistic manner and have generally failed in solving the control of ejaculation. Ejaculation is more much concerned with the mind than with the penis only because if the mind is under control, the man will be in a better position to control his natural urge to ejaculate early.

From the foregone, there is now growing interest in alternative medication for the cure and treatment of both of these male sexual dysfunctions. The use of herbal medicine in the treatment of both ED and PE has thus received a very big boost in recent times owing to growing realisation of their effectiveness based on both historical records and some recent studies.

Herbal medication and practice have been used for well over 5,000 years and have proven highly effective in the treatment of most male sexual dysfunction including erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. While most herbal practitioners over the centuries have focused more on the whole person, Western physicians look more at the disease itself. Herbs and foods are what have been used mostly for the treatment of most health problems.

New therapies continue to show the usefulness of plants as a source of our pharmacopoeia. It is on record that only 90 plant species accounts for most of the plant derived drugs in common use by physicians, about 120 drugs in all. Three-fourths of this list was discovered by following up on traditional folk medicine claims.

Basic to the use of herbs in alternative medicine is the belief that whole plant material is superior to synthesized or isolated chemicals derived from plant sources. The material may be flowers, bark, roots, or leaves, used singly or in combination, often taken in the form of teas, or ground and taken as tablets, or used in salves. These compounds are thought to produce fewer unintended or dangerous effects, and a “balanced” action as opposed to single drugs.

Herbal supplements are reported to be very promising in the treatment of male sexual dysfunctions. Herbs are generally more effective, safe, work just as quickly, have fewer side effects, cheaper than their synthetic counterparts and usually require no prescription. As a matter of fact, four-fifths of all people, worldwide, still rely to a great extent on traditional medicines based on plants and their components and about 40 per cent of the United States population have made use of some kind herbal remedy.

When it comes to the herbal treatment of erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation, there are many potent herbs which as a result of their history of effectiveness in the treatment of male sexual dysfunctions are now prepared commercially as herbal formulas in the form of teas, pills or capsules, gels, creams, lotions, and oils.

The chief herbals plants used in the majority of these formulas because of their proven efficacy in treating male sexual dysfunction include the following:

Ginseng, American and Korean
Ginseng is thought of by many as a virtual panacea. American ginseng (Panax quinquefolius) and Korean ginseng (Panax ginseng) are very similar in composition and properties. Korean ginseng has been used for centuries as a general tonic, stimulant, and stress reliever. In Chinese medicine, American ginseng has been used, but is thought to possess less stimulant activity.

Ginseng has adaptogen properties (helps the body deal with stress, whether physical or emotional) and enhances immune function. Research supports benefits for erectile dysfunction, enhancing fertility, improving blood sugar control in diabetics, improving physical performance and a sense of well-being, and enhancing mental function. Korean ginseng promotes the growth of male reproductive organs, increases sperm and testosterone levels, and increases sexual activity. In general, scientists believe the link between ginseng and sex drive is due to ginseng’s effect of strengthening the overall health and balancing the hormonal system. This is basically the thrust of herbal practitioners over the ages by concentrating on the whole person rather than on the disease itself.

Tongkat Ali
Scientifically known as Eurycoma Longifolia Jack, is the root of a tree known as the tree that “cures 1,000 diseases” normally found in the jungles of Southeast Asia. Tongkat Ali is also consumed to boost energy and stamina. Some studies have proven its efficacy as an aphrodisiac that improves strength and power during sexual activities and that it increases male virility and sexual prowess.

Ginkgo Biloba
Ginkgo biloba is the top-selling herb in the United States. It increases blood flow to the brain, hands, feet and sexual organs (improves sexual sensation). It improves the tone and elasticity of blood vessels. Several studies involving men suffering from Impotence and Premature Ejaculation have shown that Ginkgo specifically boosts blood flow to the penis.

Maca
It is a root-like vegetable found high up in the Andes Mountain range of South America. Rich in the amino acid arginine, which increases blood flow to the penis and histidine, which helps support orgasm and ejaculation; preliminary research has found it helpful. Maca is listed as an aphrodisiac in Traditional Chinese Medicine and is used to treat premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction and frequent urination. According to the Universidad Peruana Cayetano Heredia, in Lima, Peru, the herb has been shown to increase testosterone levels, seminal volume and sperm count per ejaculation. It is also considered as an anti-aging herb and is known to improve vision.

Horny Goat Weed (Epimedium)
Horny Goat Weed (Epimedium sp.) has been used as a sex-enhancer by practitioners for over 2,000 years. The leaves of this plant contain a variety of flavonoids, polysaccharides, lignans, sesquiterpenes, phenolic and penethylol glycosides, ionones, sterols, and an alkaloid called magnaflorine. Horny Goat Weed is a time tested aphrodisiac that increases libido in men and women. It stimulates the production of androgens (sex hormones) and has been used successfully in men suffering from premature ejaculation and a low sperm count and also helps in improving erectile function in men.

Yohimbe
Yohimbe (Corynanthe yohimbe) is an herb derived from the bark of the yohimbe tree found primarily in the West African nations of Cameroon, Gabon, and Zaire. The yohimbine-rich bark of Yohimbe has been used for centuries to combat sexual dysfunctions and also an as an aphrodisiac. It is one of the most popular and effective sex stimulants for both men and women. Long term usage of Yohimbe can result in erections that are firmer, larger and longer lasting. It also encourages permanent gains in penis size. Most men will notice an effect within a half hour as it increases blood flow to the vessels of the penis.

Tribulus Terrestris
It has a renowned reputation for moving energy to the genital area. The herb has been shown to increase blood flow into the corpus cavernosa portion of the penile chamber creating harder, stronger erections. It has been considered a central nervous system stimulant with aphrodisiacal properties used for sexual impotency, agitation, nervousness, premature ejaculation, and sexual weakness. One study conducted at National University in Singapore also indicated that Tribulus is helpful as a sex booster.

Cnidium seeds
A variety of carrot unknown to most Americans, Cnidium monnieri is a leafy annual with flowers that grow in clusters. Described about 2,000 years ago in the Chinese herbal classic Shen Nong Ben Cao Jing, Cnidium is a popular remedy for low sex drive in Chinese medicine. Only the seeds and essential oil of Cnidium monnieri, which belongs to the Apiaceae family, are used as a drug. The seeds may also be taken internally to treat erectile dysfunction as well as infertility in both sexes. They help with the release of nitric oxide and also inhibit PDE-5. Thus enabling the attaining and maintaining of an erection and it also help to promote stronger blood circulation.

Because this category of products can be marketed without FDA review or approval, standards for dosage and other manufacturing safeguards, or evidence of safety, it is therefore advisable to consult a physician who will be able to interpret claims made by the manufacturers of these products.

A tip-off should be when the product’s claim is simply by enumerating each ingredient (like on a product label) without including their respective quantity. Others will boost the amount of Recommended Dietary Allowance (RDA) they include, and claim percentages that loook impressive on paper, but mean little in actuality. However these are not rule of thumb, do your research or better still consult with your physician.

However, depending upon the cause, curing any erectile dysfunction (ED) or premature ejaculation (PE) is better done though a combination of meditation, herbal pills and cream/gel for local application that makes a perfect set of remedy for male sexual dysfunctions. Also it is important to still discuss with your doctor any other ailment you might be having and the treatment you are using as some of these herbs could cause some undesirable (however few) side effects.